Tuesday, November 25, 2008

One of my biggest defects is that I have wonderful ideas and intentions, but terrible or not-so-perfect execution and follow-through. This blog is a perfect example. In theory, I love writing on the blog. The reality is, I come home from work exhausted from a long day, then am Mommy and home chef and housekeeper and various errand runner, and then I don't even have time to check e-mail let alone write a blog entry. I'm sure this is a common tale, and my intention is certainly not to fill this particular entry with woe and whining about how hard my life has become. The fact is life is more challenging now, with less down-time, especially this time of year. But the fact remains that life has improved in immeasurable ways.

Today I officially adopted Theo. I found the day to be a happy occasion, but S. found the whole thing absurd rather than a celebration. We had to pay $1,000 just so that some other state or country can recognize our marriage (by default) and the birth of our son (by law). She just d
oesn't think we should be having to do this in the first place. But I'd like to remind her that there are plenty of states (like, mostly the rest of them) that wouldn't even have allowed our adoption today to have happened, and certainly in not such a pleasant way. The judge smiled and flirted with Theo the whole time (the whole 5 minutes it took) instead of being all grave and serious. We never felt talked down to, but felt encouraged by her words: "I don't see why we shouldn't make this family right now." Bloggers already know that love makes a family long before the law does, but it was affirming nonetheless, especially in light of all the craptastic civil rights repeals as of late.

And so I'll leave you not with an adoption picture exactly (he screamed his head off through all of those!), but with a four-month picture of Theo happily playing in his (now legal) family home.
By the way, this kid is, for all intents and purposes, a beast. His height percentage was apparently "off the charts", and he weighs a whopping 16 lbs, 12 oz. Yikes!


13 comments:

This Mom said...

Congratulations! As ridiculous as it is, the fact that it is still necessary and that you made it legal is reason to acknowledge it.

Amanda said...

HOORAY! I am so happy for your family.
Theo is so blessed to have TWO such wonderful parents.

tbean said...

congrats!

Lo said...

Congrats on a beautiful legal family!

beans said...

Congrats!!! It is still amazing to think of you guys here from where you were. I appreciate the updates and seeing where you all are. Of course Theo is most precious as well--even if he is a beast.

Laura said...

Yay! Congrats!!! Jen Jurcsak found me on facebook and she just adopted the twin boys that her partner birthed, a few months ago. She also expressed frustration in the absurdity of the notion that she had to adopt her own children, but at least we can say there are TWO states MA & NY) that aren't completely backwards. Love you guys!!

*~*Lis*~* said...

Congratulations! What a ridiculous bunch of crap, but I'm glad you made everything legal!

Heather said...

whoohoo for being legal!!

Bree said...

Congratulations! I agree that it feels weird having to adopt your child, but I still celebrate being one of the select few who can. I hope that someday we can get past all of this, but for now... congratulations nonetheless.

Laurie said...

I can see why the judge was flirting with him... he's a charmer! :)

Co said...

Yay for the adoption. Although I hear the absurdity of having to adopt one's own child.

And wow, look how much he has grown! Big boy!

Dr. Grumbles said...

Congrats on the adoption!

oneofhismoms said...

Congratulations, guys. He's so freakin' cute.