I felt a little flip-floppy in my stomach as we rode the elevator up to that office again. Already, we were informed that our doctor was running one hour behind. We pulled the bitch mom move: "We have to leave at 4:00 to bring him to swimming and we both left early from work." Yeah, that line. It sort of worked. I still didn't see the doc until 4:20 or so (my appointment was for 3:20), but S. got to come in and show Theo off to our most favorite and understanding ultrasound tech in the world, at the very least, then split with Theo for his swim class.
Okay, so the meaty part. Our doc loved the idea of doing a FET for me. She said, hey, we're paying to have these embryos stored, so why the hell not?? While we both knew insurance would not cover a FET for me, she informed me of the price---let's just say it is about the same cost as 4 IUIs with frozen donor sperm. And no signifigant army of meds - stuff that co-pays will probably actually apply to. Two yucky procedure--the shg and hsg--but even those will (fingers cross, knock on wood) probably be covered.
Waaahhh? Seriously? That's IT?! That was basically my reaction. Not that I am foolish enough to think this will be "easy." Frozen embryo transfers have only about a 25-30% success rate, a 70% thaw rate, and I will probably have to transfer 2 embryos. Our feelings on this is..well..sort of distressing, actually. We only put one embryo back for Theo on the doc's recommendation, and we really do trust her, so if she says she would probably want us to do two, I guess that's it. The yoyos are frozen in pairs, but they don't have to put two back. That is ultimately our choice. But....
..I don't know. So we've apparantly just gone from wondering about having two to figuring out WTF we'd do with three.
And let me tell you, she was ready to sign me up to start right then and there. Walking out the door she said "Welcome Back"! with quite the gleeful smile. Is the economic downturn hititng the infertility business as well or what?!
So that's that. We're not necessarily anywhere closer to an answer now than we were when I spewed off my anxiety about having another kiddo. But, at least we feel armed with the information we need to make that decision.
Thanks for your comments and thoughts on only vs. siblings. I loved hearing about your stories from childhood and to find out that many of you have stressed/are stressing over the same decisions.
3 comments:
I'm so very excited for you guys! We aimed at 2 embryos for every transfer we've done (1 fresh, 3 FET). And, as we enter our second IVF, we plan on doing the same again. Because of the cost and success rates, we prefer to transfer 2... more "bang for your buck" I guess... but, of course, you have to do what's right for you! It does take only 1 embryo to get pregnant :)
Hi! I have just skimmed through all of your blogs and oh my they make me feel like you went through what I'm going through. My partner and I are still waiting on our little peanut to be born. Due in September. THank you for your bloggs....except we are in florida...and i will not be able to adopt our baby... :o( but thank you for your story made me feel a little more happy...
My partner and I are living proof that a FET with 2 can result in twins. Even our doctors were shocked as the chances of BOTH taking are extremely slim...but do happen :)
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