Saturday, April 10, 2010

Moral Dilemma

Wow, when I actually feel like eating, food is really good. I should have known, 1 week into the tww, that I was pregnant when I ate 5 Chips Ahoy cookies in a row and it was the most euphoric, delicious thing I had ever tasted.

Anyway, on to my moral dilemma. I am scheduled for a surgery to get my cyst removed in two weeks. Obviously, I'm not having the surgery. So here is the dilemma. My pre-op appointment is this Wednesday. Should I go anyway and just say, hey, I'm newly pregnant but just want to make sure the pregnancy is viable before canceling my surgery. Is that ethical? Because I'm sure that an ultrasound is part of my pre-op just to check out the location and size of the cyst.

Is that bad? The thing is, I'm not going to get an ultrasound for a while because we did our IUIs with the midwives instead of our RE. It's pure selfishness, really, me wanting to get an ultrasound to see if things are going well, if there's a real thing with a heart beating, growing inside of me. But am I wasting someone's time and money by going about it this way? I feel really bad, actually. I suppose I could call the office first and check.

What do you think, oh upright moral readers?

13 comments:

Stacey said...

do it. go anyway, explain previous loss, they will understand your want to "check" before you give up surgery. I know everything will be fine, but you know, its a good way to get an ultrasound and they will understand why

CD and SP said...

do it. because i won't believe it until i see that damn heartbeat. love ya baby.

Anonymous said...

I'd say to do. I think that they'll understand. I'll be hoping for a post about how amazing it was to see the heartbeat and cancel the surgery!

Lo said...

Do it. It makes sense to ascertain that the pregnancy is viable before giving up the surgery. That's about your healthy, and it's not a waste of anything. (And I also got pg with a midwife and didn't get a u/s 'til the nuchal so OMG I hear you!!!)

Jennifer said...

I would do it. And I wouldn't feel bad for a second.

giggleblue said...

do it!

Strawberry said...

Definitely do it. I don't see any problem with the morality of it.

Amanda Hanzlik said...

DO IT.

beans said...

i say go!

moi + toi PHOTOGRAPHIE said...

i would totally tell them the situation.. they might not even do anything if you are possibly pregnant.. you tell them and see what they say. and just call the office. saves you time also. lol

Heather said...

I would sooo go!! Do it! Morals? Who needs morals?! LOL. It's a sono to see your little babyyy!! Any reason to do that is a good one, even more so that you wont be able to get one for awhile with the MW.

Ms. Debbie G said...

I am with Candi - I think you should call the office. There's no telling they will actually take the time to give you an ultrasound if it's not for the reason of your appointment. Is the person who would do the ultrasound the same person who does them for babies? The tech may not even be in a position to make a judgment about your pregnancy. And they might be really annoyed with you for not informing them, especially if the pre-op tests involves an x-ray or something which they DEFINITELY can't do when you're pregnant. Even if (God forbid) there was something wrong, I doubt you'd still be able to have surgery in two weeks, so the line you'd give them won't exactly make sense.

Mrs. Beer said...

That euphoric eating feeling got me in a looottt of trouble when I was preggers! Cute blog, love the title!!